Children are likely to succeed when the environment becomes mild and inspiring, it starts from human interactions breed from the home, with both parents and other family member are there to help such environment in easy sailing. For most average African families lack of proper communication, and devoting more time for their jobs than families make the kids feel not belonged, and once they start to get comfortable outside the family, they will be building from anything they learn outside, and in most likely outcome peer influence drive everything they do and their lives revolve around material things rather finding their purpose and real essence of living.
When children build from home, they tend to become comfortable with everything they do, kids grow in all their endeavours when they have strong family communications, connections which can be built on when they have such thing as family time, and often time dinner time becomes very indispensable to strengthened family bond and help the children to grow. African families that maintain high status financially in the society with both parents living together, always provide excelling environment for their kids, very early they are meant to understand life with purpose and get to be exposed with resources to thrive with everything they want to become, African children from the countryside don’t even know where the next meal is coming from, they could barely have proper sleep to talk more of dreaming for a brighter future.
Family values are the key factor for kids to form resistance whenever they encounter difficult outside the home, family bonds lower the chances of poor outcomes in children, such as obscene behaviours and engaging in drug abuse, with family connections they are integrated properly with high self-esteem and they will be no victim for any kind of bullying. This is what children yawn for, when they see other kids dropped off by their parents in the school, they really wished if they can get such treatment and have their parents say “be a smart kid” before going to work place.
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Family connection is associated with progress in growth, having goals and focused mind as a kid, with thriving and surviving, they avoid being misled and harm coming their way. Parents are very pivotal tools in upbringing stage, anything they want their children can become, if they established that necessary connections that will make the kids feel so comfortable anytime they are around. In remote African villages, where they have no access to basic amenities, and parents can’t afford to provide basic education for the kids, they join in doing menial jobs, from there they began to nurture that they have restricted access in life, and the chances of dreaming big become slim.
It is about understanding the language of the children when you establish connections with them, they crave for your support in anything they want to do, once you’re supportive and active in their lives they count it as a bonus to inspire. Expression, they are eager to learn and express themselves in any possible way they can, and be totally respectful while correcting them, they are not going to get everything right, but your approach when they faulter really needs to be at its peak. The importance of family connection is to build identity, it gives children the feeling of belonginess and accepted by the family members, it gives them the necessary tools to learn what their strengths and weaknesses are in a safer environment.
In upbringing, children learning their strengths and weaknesses are one of the most important essence of family connections, while their strengths provide them with basic ideas to flourish, and find their purpose in life, they work to curtail their weaknesses. In Africa children are not overtly exposed to the environment to be able to know where their strengths and weaknesses lie, they struggle throughout to deal with it, when they come of age, they have shaky career because the foundation wasn’t solid. Sometimes in Africa, children barely see their fathers excepts on weekends, it is either they are fast asleep before he returns from work or go out early to work before they could wake up, and the family connection is absence because mothers can’t really do all the jobs in keeping the children highly focused.
The fulcrum of family connection is exposing children to have purpose and meaningful life, and it is down to good life, when the parents play active role in the lives of their kids without suffocating and bombarding them with problems. It is highly difficult for families in poverty line to keep the kids high-spirited, while financial circumstances and food insecurity become the major focus. Parents have their homes under control especially in dealing with the emotional weather, it is imperative to create enabling environment where children can be heard and feel safe, and parents often time should try and suspend judgement and communicate it when they deemed it very necessary, if they establish such healthy relationships at home, they tend to have more healthy trusting relationships as grown-ups.
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