Many parents are shying away from having this conversation with their children, they confuse it with sex topics. This classic growing up talks between parents and children centred around transition from a child-adolescence-adult, this chain of transition requires such talk and it is indispensable. Often time parents become so embarrassed or don’t know how to initiate the conversation making them running behind time, as level of exposure in this recent time has become so common. With the social media tsunami they can easily be misled and learn the wrong way.
This talk revolves around emotional, mental and physical growth. As they approach ten years of age, they will began to see certain changes in their body, sometimes as gene differs others see these changes earlier than others. As parents don’t let them bring up the topic before you start the talk, this is because they can form an opinion, and it will take time to change it, the approach is to first start the talk with them, the puberty stage when they start to become sensitive to these changes is the best time to have the conversation. Times have changed, this generation requires early approach to have them within their naivety for you to be able inculcate the knowledge, from there they develop their mental muscles.
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You don’t wait to see your female child text his male classmate good night before you start to have the conversation, or she probably talked how intelligent he is, in her own innocent mind. Bed time story, all the fairy-tale stories can be replaced, teaching them what it means for someone to touch you inappropriately, enlarging private organs in your body, and how to build emotional intelligence. These talks facilitate their development, don’t over saturated them with that, you can take it bit by bit, even during evening walk, mostly when they are in their calmness of the mind. To allow the kids bring it up, may be they might heard something about it from their peers, not only will they become confused but also anxious to know when they approach as parents.
Parental guidance is indispensable now, without them, kids will turn to social media and their peers which is not the appropriate route to have the needed information. Parents should get ahead of the time before their kids start hearing such topics from somewhere else. Teaching them how to be courteous and how to deal with rejection, staying away from circle they are not welcome or showing them cold shoulder. When these talks are nurtured between parents and children, it prepares them ahead of the scenes in their life, and they will handle it effortlessly, it is ongoing conversations, it never stops.
