At some point in our lives, we must choose ourselves over any other thing and that’s okay. We must choose peace of mind, self care, mental well being, the ability to walk away from any relationship that belittles us, the ability to say No without any feelings attached. It’s not being egoistic.
You cannot please everyone, and if you persists, you end up displeasing yourself. Life is not as complicated as it tend to be, our ability to pay attention to little details matters a lot. A wise man once said, “Pay attention when people react with anger and hostility to your boundaries. You have found the edge where their respect for you ends”. You can read that again.
You need to have well defined goals, clear boundaries, visions , values and plans in order to have the ability to make your choice and stand your ground. It is very difficult for people who don’t have clear boundaries to say No because they easily fall for anything. Remember, if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.
If you are busy saying “YES” to gossiping about people’s private lives, you are saying “NO” to working on being the best version of yourself. If you are constantly saying “YES” to social media distraction, Peer Influence and Procrastination, you are saying “NO” to building a better life for yourself. I know you don’t want that for your self dear one, sit up and do better then.
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Life is always an endless cycle of service to the world, but you mustn’t displease yourself either. Jack Canfield said “There are only two words that will always lead you to success. Those words are yes and no. Undoubtedly, you’ve mastered saying yes. So start practicing saying no. Your goals depend on it.” Our future depends on many things but mostly on us, it lies in our hands. Let’s make the best use of it.
You’re unapologetically all that matters, though this does not extend to consciously hurting other people’s honest feeling, but you are at your best when you are your self. Don’t try to fit it and end up bruising your ego, you mustn’t be loved by everyone.
No matter how nice and accommodating you’re, you will never be loved by everybody. Those people you want to please and assuage their feelings by saying ‘YES’ will still ignore you if they want to. Be kind, but be rigid if being flexible will be detrimental to your happiness.
Love yourself enough to set boundaries, It’s your world. Stephanie Lahart couched it better when she said, “Let today mark a new beginning for you. Give yourself permission to say NO without feeling guilty, mean or selfish. Anybody who gets upset or expect you to say YES all of the time clearly doesn’t have your best interest at heart. Always remember: you have a right to say NO without having to explain yourself. Be at peace with your decisions.”
